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FRANCESCA PARAVATI died on
Wednesday, September 13, at the age
of 92. Born in San Sostene, Calabria,
Italy, she was the wife of the late Francesco
Paravati, loving mother of Vito
and Anne Paravati, Joseph and Mary
Paravati, Theresa Paravati and Carlo
and Franca Paravati, cherished grandmother
of Frances, Denise, Frank, Joseph
and Christine, Kathryn and Danny,
Dana and Jared, Michael and Ava, and
great-grandmother of Gianna, Isabella,
JoJo, Valentina, Tyler, Nicky, Antonio
and Hailey. A Mass of Christian Burial
was off ered on Saturday, September 16,
at Our Lady of Hope Church, Middle
Village, followed by entombment at All
Faiths Cemetery, Middle Village, under
the direction of Papavero Funeral
Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth. In
lieu of fl owers, memorial donations
may be made to the Long Island Alzheimer’s
Foundation, www.liaf.org.
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MARIO RIENZO of Ridgewood
died on Tuesday, September 12, at the
age of 48. A native of Brooklyn, he
was the loving son of Rose Rienzo. He
is also survived by one niece and one
great-niece. A Mass of Christian Burial
was off ered at St. Aloysius Church,
Ridgewood, followed by interment
at Linden Hill Cemetery, Ridgewood,
under the direction of Morton Funeral
Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview
Ave., Ridgewood.
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To place an In Memoriam
Grief
relief
“Oh to be a stone! To feel no
grief!”
The Greek dramatist Euripides
wrote these words 400 years
before the birth of Christ. Grief is the
price of love. When we love someone
and they die, we feel the pain of
grief. However, there are steps we
can take that may ease the stress and
hasten our recovery.
Here are some tips that can help
the bereaved on their journey
through grief:
Go back to work. If you had a job,
return as soon as possible. Work is
a healthy distraction from the pain
of loss. If you were not in the workplace,
find a job.
Stay fit. Exercise can help you
both physically and emotionally
because activity provides an outlet
for stress.
Enroll in a class. Not only does
taking a class provide you with a
healthy diversion from grief but
it also can supply practical knowledge
for improving the quality of
your life.
Be good to yourself. Do not hesitate
to treat yourself to something
you truly enjoy.
Take some time to write down a
list of things that bring you pleasure
such as displaying a vase of
fresh flowers, gardening, leisurely
reading a newspaper, etc. Then, try
to engage in at least one of these
activities daily.
Volunteer your time. Another
effective way to get out of the house
and provide some grief relief is
through volunteering. Local community
groups or museums and
historic sites always welcome people
who can spare some time to support
their activities.
Talk about your grief with a
friend. Expressing and exploring
your feelings with a trusted friend
is one of the best things you can do
for yourself. Talking helps relieve
the pressure, brings you perspective,
and keeps you in touch with
others. Cry when you feel like it.
Read practical articles and books
about grief. Reading about bereavement
is an excellent way to find your
way through this difficult, uncharted
experience.
Guide your thinking. According
to Laurence G. Boldt, author of Zen
Soup: “’ Thoughts,’ as Emerson put it,
‘rule the world’ for the simple reason
that thoughts determine feelings
and actions. We can think ourselves
into happiness or a deep depression.
We can think ourselves into health
or illness. If we only take care of our
thoughts, our feelings and actions
will take care of themselves.”
Cultivate hope on a daily basis.
When the days seem too long, the
nights endless and hope a distant
memory, rinse your mind and
fortify your spirit by reflecting on
words of hope. Though your journey
through grief may seem dark,
the light of recovery will break
through.
Most survivors will find solace
in these suggestions. But if you feel
that your grief is overwhelming
your life, ask your family funeral
director for the name of a local bereavement
counselor who can guide
you through resolving your feelings
of sadness and loss.
Material in this column was excerpted
(with permission) from an article
authored by Victor M. Parachin, a
National Funeral Directors Association
grief educator and minister.
Courtesy of NYS Funeral Directors
Association