26 FEBRUARY 23, 2017 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM +++ ROSALIA OSTERMANN of Lititz, PA, died on Wednesday, February 15, at the age of 93. A native of Niedertiefenbach, Yugoslavia, she was the wife of the late Johann Ostermann and devoted mother of Anne Meisl. She is also survived by three grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren. A Mass of Christian Burial was off ered at Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal Church, Ridgewood, followed by interment at St. Charles Cemetery, Farmingdale, NY, under the direction of Morton Funeral Home/ Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood. +++ DEREK LOUIS AYALA died on Tuesday, February 14, at the age of 29. He was the beloved son of Clara and the late Pablo Ayala, loving brother of Adam Ayala and cherished grandson of Jose Zarate. He was a dear nephew, cousin and friend to many. A Mass of Christian Burial was off ered on Saturday, February 18, at Ascension Church, Elmhurst, followed by cremation at Fresh Pond Crematory, Middle Village, under the direction of Papavero Funeral Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth. +++ MARIA D. CADME DE CAYAMCELA died on Tuesday, February 14, at the age of 60. She was the beloved wife of Gerardo M. Cayamcela, loving mother of Danny and Nelly Cayamcela, Elsa and Harold Cayamcela, Andres Cayamcela, Mario Alexander Cayamcela and Margarita Cayamcela, cherished grandmother of Gianna and Jonathan, devoted daughter of Luis Cadme and Carlota Vicuna and dear sister of Piedad Cadme, Rosa Cadme, Zoila Cadme, Luz Cadme, Luis G. Cadme and the late Maria Concepcion Cadme. A Mass of Christian Burial was off ered on Friday, February 17, at St. Teresa Church, Woodside, followed by cremation at Fresh Pond Crematory, Middle Village, under the direction of Papavero Funeral Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth. +++ VASILIE MATEJ of Ridgewood died on Tuesday, February 14, at the age of 73. He was a native of Yugoslavia. Services were off ered at Morton Funeral Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood, by Reverend Viorel Dimitrescu, followed by interment at Linden Hill Cemetery, Ridgewood. +++ JOSE RAFAEL VARGAS of Glendale died on Tuesday, February 14, at the age of 49. A native of Brooklyn, he was the beloved husband of Gloria, devoted father of Julian Vargas, Celina Vargas and Liana Vargas, loving son of Rafael Vargas and Cristina Hernandez and dear brother of Martha Vargas and Sonia Marrero. A Mass of Christian Burial was offered at Epiphany Roman Catholic Church, Brooklyn, followed by interment at Linden Hill Cemetery, Ridgewood, under the direction of Morton Funeral Home/ Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood. +++ JON KONDAN of Ridgewood died on Monday, February 13, at the age of 83. A native of Sutjeska, Yugoslavia, he was the beloved husband of Jablanka Filipovic and devoted father of Denise Kondan, Gordana Kondan and Ofelia Panko. He is also survived by 11 grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Services were off ered at Morton Funeral Home/ Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood, by Reverend Viorel Dimitrescu, followed by entombment at All Faiths Cemetery, Middle Village. +++ DELISA NIKA of Bayside died on Sunday, February 12, at the age of 51. A native of Nikolinci, Yugoslavia, she was the beloved wife of Steven Stan, devoted mother of Diana Nika, Steven Nika and Yasmina Veljkovic and dear sister of Stevan Djordjevic, Jovanka Nika and Draga Nika. Services were off ered at Morton Funeral Home/ Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood, by Reverend Viorel Dimitrescu, followed by interment at Linden Hill Cemetery, Ridgewood. +++ SALVATORE GAMBINO of Ridgewood died on Friday, February 10, at the age of 78. A native of Carini, Sicily, Italy, he was the beloved husband of Giovanna and devoted father of Giuseppe Gambino and Vita Ballatore. He is also survived by fi ve grandchildren. A Mass of Christian Burial was off ered at Our Lady of the Miraculous Medal Church, Ridgewood, followed by entombment at St. John Cemetery, Middle Village, under the direction of Morton Funeral Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood. +++ DANIEL MCGINNIS died on Friday, February 10, at the age of 66. He was the beloved husband of Madeline McGinnis, loving father of Rocco and cherished grandfather of Vincent. A private cremation was held on Tuesday, February 14, at Fresh Pond Crematory, Middle Village, under the direction of Papavero Funeral Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth. +++ EILEEN KENNEDY NEYMAN of Warwick, NY died on Wednesday, February 1, at the age of 53. She was the beloved wife of Michael Neyman, loving daughter of the late James and Mary Kennedy and dear sister of James and Harriet, Mary, Ann and the late Thomas Kennedy. A Mass of Christian Burial was offered at St. Brigid Church, Brooklyn, followed by interment at St. Charles Cemetery, Farmingdale, NY, under the direction of Glendale Walsh-LaBella and Son Funeral Home, 70-17 Cooper Ave., Glendale. Memorial donations may be made in Eileen’s memory to Warwick Valley Humane Society, P.O. Box 61, Warwick, NY 10990, www.wvhumane. org, or to an animal shelter near you. +++ ALICE MOORE of Las Vegas, NV, died on Tuesday, January 31, at the age of 60. A native of Palestine, TX, she was the dear sister of David T. Moore. Services were off ered at Morton Funeral Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood, followed by cremation at Ivy Hill Cemetery, Philadelphia, PA. +++ JAMES A. METZGER of Tucson, AZ, died on Monday, January 23, at the age of 78. A native of the Bronx, he was the dear uncle of Carol Sherman Jones. Services were off ered at graveside at Union Fields Cemetery, Glendale, under the direction of Morton Funeral Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663 Grandview Ave., Ridgewood. OBITUARIES What is closure? We hear people talking about “closure” as if there is a door that can be shut aft er experiencing a tragedy in our lives, losing a loved one or being witness to a horrifi c event such as the terrorist attack on the World Trade Center. Friends might ask “Haven’t you reached closure yet?” Grief cannot be forced or pushed or closed off from our minds. There is no magic formula for working through grief. The fact of the matter is that grief must be expressed and dealt with. We all experience and react to loss in different ways depending on the relationship of the deceased to us, our past experiences with loss, and sometimes even our health and emotional state. Grieving for a lost loved one can take years, sometimes a lifetime. There is no closure, but there is a point where people have a great deal of acceptance, even peace of mind, and are able to move on to a diff erent frame of mind - a frame of mind that leaves them supported by the memories, but empowered to continue with their lives knowing they did all they could do with respect to the person they lost. Why would anyone seek closure? Why would anyone want to close the door on thoughts about a departed loved one? Grief will soft en in the years after a loss, but the door to memories should always be open. Courtesy of the New York State Funeral Directors Association, reprinted with permission.
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