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Lorraine Sciulli, 82, long-time civic activist for Middle Village
Lorraine Sciulli, long-time vice
president of the Juniper Park
Civic Association (JPCA) and
member of Community Board 5,
died on Wednesday, Nov. 29, at the
age of 82.
Sciulli served Board 5 for more
than two decades and had been active
on the Middle Village civic scene for
more than 35 years, according to City
Councilman-elect Robert Holden, her
nephew and president of the JPCA.
A resident of Middle Village since
1939, Sciulli grew up near Juniper
Valley Park, where she enjoyed
playing league sports. She attended
Resurrection Ascension School in
neighboring Rego Park and Grover
Cleveland High School in Ridgewood.
Upon graduating, she went to work
in an investment counsel fi rm for
approximately 15 years, was an associate
and registered representative in
the National Association of Security
Dealers (NASD); at one point, she also
held a real estate license.
Around 1980, Sciulli began her
affi liation with the JPCA; by 1990,
she had become an active full-time
organization member. At the JPCA, in
addition to serving as fi rst vice president,
she also served as editor and
advertising manager for the Juniper
Berry magazine and was chair of the
membership committee.
Sciulli was married to her husband,
John, for 63 years and is survived by a
daughter, Carol, and four grandsons.
She was honored in the past for her
many contributions to the community
by Queens Borough President Helen
Marshall and Assemblywoman
Margaret Markey, and she also
received the JPCA Lifetime Achievement
Award. State Senator Joseph
Addabbo also nominated Sciulli as a
New York State Woman of Distinction
for 2012, an honor given annually to
one woman in each of the state's 62
Senate districts.
“Lorraine’s energy and dedication
were without parallel, and the people
of Queens owe a great debt of gratitude
for her many eff orts on their
behalf,” Holden wrote.
A wake for Sciulli was held on Saturday
and Sunday, Dec. 2-3, at Leo F.
Kearns Funeral Home, Rego Park. A
Mass of Christian Burial was off ered
on Monday, Dec. 4, at Our Lady of
Hope Church, Middle Village.
Ridgewood Times staff
Create a personal journal to help ease the pain
Creating a journal helps to
ease grief because it provides
a safe place where
you are free to express your
deepest thoughts and feelings
about your life loss.
At this unhappy time, it is
normal for grieving people to
feel helpless and out of control.
According to Linda Cherek, a
member of the National Catholic
Ministry to the Bereaved’s
Board of Trustees, telling the
story of your relationship with
the lost loved one in a journal
will help to calm these emotions.
Through writing, we can
express our ideas and feelings
about the death, and look inward
to identify and consider
our strengths, areas for growth
and coping mechanisms.
Cherek off ers some thoughts
on getting started on using
journaling as a part of the
grieving process:
Find writing materials that
appeal to you -- a bound book, a
spiral notebook, or loose sheets.
Create a special place to
write. Make it comfortable and
inviting.
Set aside time to write. Julia
Cameron in The Artist’s Way
suggests getting up a half hour
earlier each day (while your
brain is still free of the cares of
the day ahead) and write three
pages -- whatever comes into
your head.
Don’t worry about punctuation,
spelling or grammar. If
you can’t think of anything to
write, just write, “I can’t think
of anything to write” over and
over. Often, your innermost
feelings will emerge. Your journal
listens without judgment.
Consider some questions to
focus your writing. Are there
unresolved problems or questions
about your relationship
with the loved one who died?
What has the experience of
their death been like for you?
What am I going to do without
their physical presence? What
do I want to remember? What
have I learned about myself?
Consider writing a letter to
your loved one -- what it has
been like since their death, or
what you want your life to be
like in the years ahead.
Cherek adds that writing out
our losses is a method of therapy:
“The word therapy comes
from the Greek word therapei
which means the kind of attention
one gives the sacred.
The way our life was connected
with that of our loved one is
a sacred story of the unique
journey we walked. Keeping a
journal is one valuable way to
honor that journey.”
Courtesy of NYS Funeral
Directors Association
loving father of John Barrins,
Eugene Barrins, Michael
Barrins and the late
Gerard Barrins, cherished
grandfather of Gillian, Alexandra,
Maeve, Timothy
and Claire and dear brother
of Sister Delia Barrins, Bartholomew
Barrins, Sister
Veronica Barrins, Emily
Feeney, Theresa Felle, Noel
Barrins and the late Michael
Barrins. A Mass of Christian
Burial was off ered on
Tuesday, December 5, at Ascension
Church, Elmhurst,
followed by entombment at
St. John Cemetery Resurrection
Mausoleum, Middle
Village, under the direction
of Papavero Funeral Home,
72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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JOVAN JOCO of Ridgewood
died on Thursday,
November 30, at the age of
79. A native of Korca, Albania,
he was the beloved
husband of Panajo and devoted
father of Eft im Joco.
He is also survived by four
grandchildren. Services
were offered at Morton
Funeral Home/Ridgewood
Chapels, 663 Grandview
Ave., Ridgewood, followed
by interment at Cypress
Hills Cemetery, Brooklyn.
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MICHAEL S. PEPE died
on Wednesday, November
29, at the age of 92. He was
the husband of the late
Alexandra B. Pepe, cherished
son of Alice and Jay
Wenz, Michael and Diane
Pepe, Joseph and Kim
Pepe and Nicholas and Pat
Pepe, cherished grandfather
of Michelle, Erin,
Michael, Joseph, Michael,
Nicholas, Gregory, Nicole,
Larissa and Alexandra
and great-grandfather of
Nicholas. He was also a
dear uncle to many loving
nieces and nephews. A
Mass of Christian Burial
was offered on Monday,
December 4, at Holy Cross
Church, Maspeth, followed
by interment at St. John
Cemetery, Middle Village,
under the direction of
Papavero Funeral Home,
72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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PETAR POPA of Middle
Village died on Monday,
November 27, at the age
of 79. A native of Lokve,
Yugoslavia, he was the beloved
husband of Florica
Mohan and devoted father
of Peter Popa and Ana
Zivojn. He is also survived
by six grandchildren and
fi ve great-grandchildren.
Services were off ered at
Morton Funeral Home/
Ridgewood Chapels,
663 Grandview Ave.,
Ridgewood, followed by
interment at All Faiths
Cemetery, Middle Village.
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