32 MAY 24, 2018 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM
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ANTONIO “BOLDI” IMPERATO
died on Friday, May 18, at the age of 62.
He was the son of the late Raff aele and
Vincenza Imperato, loving father of
Vincenza Imperato, Raff aele Imperato,
Antonio Imperato, Michelle Imperato,
and Alexander and Rose Imperato,
cherished grandfather of Giana, Raff aele,
Audriana, Francesco, Caleigh and
Maya Rose and dear brother of Anna,
Salvatore, Daniele and Eleonora. He is
also survived by many loving nieces
and nephews. A Mass of Christian
Burial was off ered on Monday, May 21,
at St. Margaret Church, Middle Village,
followed by interment at Mount St.
Mary Cemetery, Flushing, under the
direction of Papavero Funeral Home,
72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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STELIAN DEACONESCU of Whitestone
died on Thursday, May 17, at the
age of 72. He was a native of Romania.
Services were off ered at Morton Funeral
Home/Ridgewood Chapels, 663
Grandview Ave., Ridgewood, followed
by interment at Linden Hill Cemetery,
Ridgewood.
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SPYROS KOLIOS died on Wednesday,
May 16, at the age of 89. He was
the beloved husband of Pelagia Kolios
and loving father of Vasiliki Kolios. A
Divine Liturgy was off ered on Friday,
May 18, at Sts. Constantine and Helen
Greek Orthodox Church, Jackson
Heights, followed by interment at Cypress
Hills Cemetery, Brooklyn, under
the direction of Papavero Funeral
Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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GLORIA MUZIO died on Wednesday,
May 16, at the age of 95. She was
the wife of the late Joseph A. Muzio,
loving mother of Vincent Muzio and
Joanne Kruck, mother-in-law of Carolyn
and the late Michael, cherished
grandmother of Michele, Michael,
Gina, Kristen and Christine and
great-grandmother of Victoria, Julia,
Kailynn and James. A Mass of Christian
Burial was off ered on Saturday,
May 19, at St. Adalbert’s Church, Elmhurst,
followed by cremation at Fresh
Pond Crematory, Middle Village, under
the direction of Papavero Funeral
Home, 72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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AGATA FINETTA died on Monday,
May 14, at the age of 82. She was the
wife of the late Stephen Finetta, loving
mother of Stephanie, Christina, Rocky
and the late Thomas, cherished grandmother
of Dena, Toni Ann, Tommy,
James, Joseph, John and the late Christyann,
and fond great-grandmother
of Taylor, Kyle, Jayden, Shane, Dakota
and Gabriella. She was also a dear sister,
aunt and friend to many. A Mass of
Christian Burial was off ered on Friday,
May 18, at St. Pancras Church, Glendale,
followed by cremation at Fresh Pond
Crematory, Middle Village, under the
direction of Papavero Funeral Home,
72-27 Grand Ave., Maspeth.
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MARGARET GRESS died on Monday,
May 14, at the age of 80. She was
the wife of the late Elmer E. Gress, loving
mother of Thomas Gress, Kathleen
Gress, Ellen Gress and Stephen Gress,
mother-in-law of Cyndee, George, John
and Franca, cherished grandmother
of Matthew, Tara, Thomas William,
Shannon and Megan and dear sister
of William Kelly. A Mass of Christian
Burial was off ered on Friday, May
18, at St. Stanislaus Church, Maspeth,
followed by entombment at St. John
Cemetery Resurrection Mausoleum,
Middle Village, under the direction of
Papavero Funeral Home, 72-27 Grand
Ave., Maspeth.
OBITUARIES
COPING WITH DEATH
Create a personal
journal to help
ease the pain
Creating a journal helps to ease
grief because it provides a safe
place where you are free to
express your deepest thoughts and
feelings about your life loss.
At this unhappy time, it is normal
for grieving people to feel helpless
and out of control.
According to Linda Cherek, a member
of the National Catholic Ministry
to the Bereaved’s Board of Trustees,
telling the story of your relationship
with the lost loved one in a journal
will help to calm these emotions.
Through writing, we can express
our ideas and feelings about the death,
and look inward to identify and consider
our strengths, areas for growth
and coping mechanisms.
Cherek off ers some thoughts on
getting started on using journaling
as a part of the grieving process:
Find writing materials that appeal
to you — a bound book, a spiral notebook,
or loose sheets.
Create a special place to write. Make
it comfortable and inviting.
Set aside time to write. Julia Cameron
in The Artist’s Way suggests getting
up a half hour earlier each day (while
your brain is still free of the cares of
the day ahead) and write three pages
— whatever comes into your head.
Don’t worry about punctuation,
spelling or grammar. If you can’t think
of anything to write, just write, “I can’t
think of anything to write” over and
over. Oft en, your innermost feelings
will emerge. Your journal listens
without judgment.
Consider some questions to focus
your writing. Are there unresolved
problems or questions about your
relationship with the loved one who
died? What has the experience of their
death been like for you? What am I going
to do without their physical presence?
What do I want to remember?
What have I learned about myself?
Consider writing a letter to your
loved one — what it has been like since
their death, or what you want your life
to be like in the years ahead.
Cherek adds that writing out our
losses is a method of therapy: “The
word therapy comes from the Greek
word therapei which means the kind
of attention one gives the sacred.
The way our life was connected
with that of our loved one is a sacred
story of the unique journey we walked.
Keeping a journal is one valuable way
to honor that journey.”
Courtesy of NYS Funeral
Directors Association