34 NOVEMBER 3, 2016 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM Dealing with grief during the holidays The holiday season can be overwhelming for those who have recently lost a loved one or for those who are still experiencing grief from an earlier loss. Demands on our time and energy to have a perfect holiday “just like it used to be” are unrealistic and unhealthy for everyone and especially so for the bereaved. New York State’s largest hospice program, the Community Hospice, has shared suggestions to help the bereaved cope with the emotional demands of the season: Celebrate Life: In this season of peace and joy, acknowledge that life is worth living. Treasure the Old and Welcome the New: Every holiday is fi lled with expectations, memories of holidays past, as well as people we have loved who may no longer be in our lives. Treasure your memories but allow this holiday season to evolve, with its own special surprises and cherished moments. Take Care of Yourself: Consider what supportive and caring things you can do for yourself this holiday season. Find those people who encourage you to be yourself and accept your feelings - both happy and sad. Seek Balance at This Hectic Time: Holidays are a time of parties and pressures, of frenzied schedules and frazzled nerves. Make time for exercise — a great pick-me-up. Go easy on alcoholic beverages. Eat nourishing, light meals. Avoid Over-Doing It: Feelings of loss will probably leave you fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Lower your expectations for now. Don’t feel obligated to do all the cleaning, baking and decorating you might have done in the past. Set limitations. Do What is Right For You During the Holidays: Well-meaning friends and family oft en try to prescribe what is good for you during the holidays. Instead of going along with their plans, focus on what you personally want to do. If you feel that the upcoming holiday season will be very diffi cult for you to manage emotionally, ask your family funeral director for the name of a local bereavement counselor who can help you. Remember the words of Helen Keller, “What we have once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” Lasting impressions are our first priority. A funeral service represents a family’s final farewell to their loved one. Knowing this, we go beyond what is expected to ensure the ceremony is beautiful and memorable... a truly fitting tribute to that special life. We invite you to visit us to meet our staff and tour our facility. We think you’ll be pleased to find that making lasting impressions is our first priority. MORTON FUNERAL HOME / RIDGEWOOD CHAPELS Continuing a proud tradition of dignified, personal service. Hess-Miller Funeral Home ANTHONY J. MARTINO, Lic. Mgr. DAVID L. MARTINO, Director Owned By Martino F.H., Inc. Since 1982 1-718-821-6660 or 1-800-479-6419 Serving Ridgewood, Maspeth, Middle Village & Glendale 64-19 Metropolitan Ave., Middle Village, N.Y. www.hessmillerfuneralhome.com A symbol of hope. A symbol of help. Michaels Funeral Home, Inc. 79-22 Metropolitan Avenue Middle Village, NY 11379 (718)894-5500 Visit us at Michaelsfuneralhome.com Like us on Facebook Thekla Kropf (Buchner) A longtime resident of Ridgewood, Queens, died September 30th In Tucson Arizona at the age of 86. She was the wife of John Kropf and loving mother Of Manfred Kropf, Hilda DeNigris and Valentine Buchner. She is survived by two grandchildren and 4 great-grandchildren. She was kind, a loving parent and had a great sense of humor to the last.
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