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22 FEBRUARY 18, 2021 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM COPING WITH DEATH Prescription for grief relief The Greek dramatist Euripides wrote these words 400 years before the birth of Christ. Grief is the price of love. When we love someone and they die, we feel the pain of grief. However, there are steps we can take that may ease the stress and hasten our recovery. Here are some tips that can help the bereaved on their journey through grief: • Go back to work. If you had a job, return as soon as possible. Work is a healthy distraction from the pain of loss. If you were not in the workplace, fi nd a job. • Stay fi t. Exercise can help you both physically and emotionally because activity provides an outlet for stress. • Enroll in a class. Not only does taking a class provide you with a healthy diversion from grief but it also can supply practical knowledge for improving the quality of your life. • Be good to yourself. Do not hesitate to treat yourself to something you truly enjoy. • Take some time to write down a list of things that bring you pleasure such as displaying a vase of fresh fl owers, gardening, leisurely reading a newspaper, etc. Then, try to engage in at least one of these activities daily. • Volunteer your time. Another effective way to get out of the house and provide some grief relief is through volunteering. Local community groups or museums and historic sites always welcome people who can spare some time to support their activities. • Talk about your grief with a friend. Expressing and exploring your feelings with a trusted friend is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Talking helps relieve the pressure, brings you perspective, and keeps you in touch with others. Cry when you feel like it. Most survivors will fi nd solace in these suggestions. But if you feel that your grief is overwhelming your life, ask your family funeral director for the name of a local bereavement counselor who can guide you through resolving your feelings of sadness and loss. Material in this column was excerpted (with permission) from an article authored by Victor M. Parachin, a National Funeral Directors Association grief educator and minister. — Courtesy of NYS Funeral Directors Association Margaret R. Miller, age 84, formerly of Glendale, New York, beloved wife of the late Roy Miller, passed away on February 11, 2021 at Newtown Rehabilitation and Health Care Center. Margaret was born in Brooklyn, New York on December 21, 1936 to the late James and Rosanna (McCaffery) Sweeney and had been a lifelong New York resident. She was a retired sales associate for J.C. Penny Department Store. Survivors include her devoted children, Kevin Miller and his wife Catherine of Naugatuck, CT, Noreen Pantazis and her husband John of Stratford, CT, Elaine Neretich and her husband Gregg of Naugatuck, CT and Ellen Schmidt and her husband Michael of Stratford, CT, 11 grandchildren, 11 great-grandchildren and several nieces and nephews. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Thursday, February 18th at 10:30 a.m. meeting directly at St. James Church 2070 Main Street Stratford. Interment will be in St. John’s Cemetery, Monroe. Everyone in attendance must follow the COVID 19 guidelines and wear a mask and practice social distancing. The Adzima Funeral Home-Stratford has been entrusted with the funeral arrangements. For more information or to make an online condolence, please visit www.adzimafuneralhome.com ALL FAITHS MONUMENTS, INC. "Dedicated to Quality" Serving all cemeteries in the Tri-State area • Open 6 days a week (closed Sundays) • Courteous personal service EXPERT CEMETERY LETTERING WITHOUT REMOVING THE MONUMENT • Finest quality monuments • Custom design service OR DISTURBING THE GRAVE No obligation - Free estimates 40 years experience Jim Stagnitta P: 718-628-9671 F: 718-628-9685 email: jwstagnitta@gmail.com A L L FA I T H S M O N U M E N T S 73-01 Edsall Avenue, Glendale, NY 11385 At the rear entrance of All Faiths Cemetery Hess-Miller Funeral Home �� ANTHONY J. MARTINO, Lic. Mgr. DAVID L. MARTINO, Director Owned By Martino F.H., Inc. Since 1982 1-718-821-6660 or 1-800-479-6419 Serving Ridgewood, Maspeth, Middle Village & Glendale �� 64-19 Metropolitan Ave., Middle Village, N.Y. www.hessmillerfuneralhome.com /WWW.QNS.COM link /www.hessmillerfuneralhome.com /www.adzimafuneralhome.com /www.adzimafuneralhome.com /www.hessmillerfuneralhome.com link