22 FEBRUARY 18, 2021 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM
COPING WITH DEATH
Prescription for grief relief
The Greek dramatist Euripides
wrote these words 400 years
before the birth of Christ. Grief
is the price of love.
When we love someone and they die,
we feel the pain of grief.
However, there are steps we can take
that may ease the stress and hasten our
Here are some tips that can help the
bereaved on their journey through
• Go back to work. If you had a job,
return as soon as possible. Work is a
healthy distraction from the pain of
loss. If you were not in the workplace,
fi nd a job.
• Stay fi t. Exercise can help you both
physically and emotionally because
activity provides an outlet for stress.
• Enroll in a class. Not only does taking
a class provide you with a healthy
diversion from grief but it also can supply
practical knowledge for improving
the quality of your life.
• Be good to yourself. Do not hesitate
to treat yourself to something you truly
• Take some time to write down a list
of things that bring you pleasure such
as displaying a vase of fresh fl owers,
gardening, leisurely reading a newspaper,
etc. Then, try to engage in at least
one of these activities daily.
• Volunteer your time. Another effective
way to get out of the house and
provide some grief relief is through
volunteering. Local community groups
or museums and historic sites always
welcome people who can spare some
time to support their activities.
• Talk about your grief with a friend.
Expressing and exploring your feelings
with a trusted friend is one of the best
things you can do for yourself. Talking
helps relieve the pressure, brings you
perspective, and keeps you in touch
with others. Cry when you feel like it.
Most survivors will fi nd solace in
these suggestions. But if you feel that
your grief is overwhelming your life,
ask your family funeral director for the
name of a local bereavement counselor
who can guide you through resolving
your feelings of sadness and loss.
Material in this column was excerpted
(with permission) from an article authored
by Victor M. Parachin, a National
Funeral Directors Association grief educator
— Courtesy of NYS Funeral Directors
Margaret R. Miller, age 84, formerly of Glendale, New York, beloved
wife of the late Roy Miller, passed away on February 11, 2021 at
Newtown Rehabilitation and Health Care Center. Margaret was born
in Brooklyn, New York on December 21, 1936 to the late James and
Rosanna (McCaffery) Sweeney and had been a lifelong New York
resident. She was a retired sales associate for J.C. Penny
Department Store. Survivors include her devoted children, Kevin
Miller and his wife Catherine of Naugatuck, CT, Noreen Pantazis and
her husband John of Stratford, CT, Elaine Neretich and her husband
Gregg of Naugatuck, CT and Ellen Schmidt and her husband
Michael of Stratford, CT, 11 grandchildren, 11 great-grandchildren
and several nieces and nephews. A Mass of Christian Burial will be
celebrated on Thursday, February 18th at 10:30 a.m. meeting
directly at St. James Church 2070 Main Street Stratford. Interment
will be in St. John’s Cemetery, Monroe. Everyone in attendance
must follow the COVID 19 guidelines and wear a mask and practice
social distancing. The Adzima Funeral Home-Stratford has been
entrusted with the funeral arrangements. For more information or
to make an online condolence, please visit
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