30 DECEMBER 30, 2021 RIDGEWOOD TIMES WWW.QNS.COM
COPING WITH DEATH
Is closure ever possible?
We hear people talking about
“closure” as if there is a door
that can be shut aft er experiencing
a tragedy in our lives, losing a
loved one or being witness to a horrifi c
event such as the terrorist attack on the
World Trade Center.
Friends might ask, “Haven’t you
reached closure yet?”
Grief cannot be forced or pushed or
closed off from our minds.
There is no magic formula for working
The fact of the matter is that grief
must be expressed and dealt with.
We all experience and react to loss in
diff erent ways depending on the relationship
of the deceased to us, our past
experiences with loss, and sometimes
even our health and emotional state.
Grieving for a lost loved one can take
years, sometimes a lifetime.
According to Curtis Rostad, a Certifi
ed Funeral Service Practitioner who
has been a licensed funeral director
since 1973, there is no such thing as
He maintains that those who refuse
to begin the journey through grief
simply delay their own recovery.
Rostad goes on to explain why he
thinks the concept of closure is mentioned
so oft en in today’s culture. “It
should come as little surprise that a
generation of people brought up with
minute rice, instant coff ee and microwave
ovens would search for quick relief
from something we call grief,” he says.
“We hear it from those who go to the
scene of a disaster where their family
member has died. We hear it from those
who witness the execution of the person
convicted of killing their loved one. We
hear it expressed by those who have
someone missing in war.”
In Rostad’s long experience in helping
families deal with grief, he has
found that seeking closure only produces
feelings of frustration that join
the emotions of sorrow.
There is no closure, but there is a
point where people have a great deal
of acceptance, even peace of mind, and
are able to move on to a diff erent frame
It’s a frame of mind that leaves them
supported by the memories, but empowered
to continue with their lives
knowing they did all they could do with
respect to the person they lost.
Why would anyone seek closure?
Why would anyone want to close the
door on thoughts about a departed
Grief will soft en in the years aft er a
loss, but the door to memories should
always be open.
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